Counselling can Save your Marriage

A divorce or separation is just a method to run away from the relationship problems. Throwing your marriage away without even trying is never a good option. Couples who are going through a stressful and unhappy married life can make it happening with the help ofcounselling sessions.

Get to know how counselling can save your marriage, and give it a try:

·         Healthy relationship counselling can help the couples in resolving their conflict without getting engaged in any argument. It will provide them the environment to express their opinions and the existing problems. This will be helpful in communicating with each other without having the fear to get hurt.

·         Marriage counselling helps you and your partner in numerous ways by providing a safe and supportive environment for both of you to bring about positive changes in your feelings, behaviours and attitude. This will facilitate understanding in both of you.

·         Resolving your marriage conflict in a healthy manner can be learnt through counselling session. A marriage counsellor can make you learn to state your needs and wants clearly to your partner without any resentment.

·         Marriage counselling taken at the initial phases of marital dispute can save your marriage from getting worse. Expressing the unhappiness and problems the moment you feel it, can avoid creating any sort of misunderstanding between couples. 

A counsellor is the professional with whom couples can share the problems openly and get it sorted out.

Counselling helps in developing a deeper understanding for your spouse so that you can make true efforts to protect this precious relationship.

Communication: Important for sustaining relationships

Every relationship goes through some ups and downs with quarrels on little things becoming a common phenomenon. But this surely isn’t what you aspired for while forming the long lasting bond. Hence solving the problems and issues that crop up is always a better option than hampering the relationships. For this, you first need to know what the root cause of the problems is. Once you are aware of it; half the task is done!

I come across several couples encountering such issues and the major reason leading to it is poor communication. And how could one deny this being the reason, when other activities like checking messages, watching TV or flipping through sports section seems more important than your partner. There is a dire need to address the communication gap before it’s too late. Below are some strategies to solve communication problems:

• Make time for     each other: When you get some personal time, make sure that neither mobile     nor any other thing distracts you.
• Keep your     tone low: Raising voice escalates even a trivial issue. Hence, make sure     to give attention towards addressing the concern by putting forth your     views in a subtle manner so that you don’t end up cropping another     quarrel.
• Go     with the rules: Never interrupt when your partner is indulged in some     activity. Similarly when in communication with your partner, make sure not to be distractedtowards some other work; give proper attention to their each word.

Use body language to show you’re listening: Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. You need to communicate via gestures that you are listening and are not bored of it. Nod so the other person knows you’re getting the message.